Well as a mother I will share the dirty secrets
of mother hood. No sugar coating… So you have just spend 8-24 or even more if
you are one of the unlucky ones in labor and in most delivery’s (if there
aren’t any issues) they plop this slimy bloody baby on your chest… Well I was
in love but also thinking in my head, ok can someone give her a bath poor baby.
Granted if you have a c-section it is different and according to my sister
in-law they show you the baby for a second then they are off to the
nursery.
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| They plop this on you hehe |
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| Nice Clean baby |
But back to me and my babies. I had all three
vaginal, no Epi and had two plopped up on me. Morgan was taken over to get
cleaned up and have her throat suctioned first cause she decided to poop on
herself during labor. But fortunately no problems and she was cleaned up and
passed to me. But for this blog I am going to start with one baby. So here you
are baby plopped on you finally out. How do you feel now??? Well a whole mix of
emotions, over joyed to finally have your baby in your arms and relieved that
labor is finally over and exhausted cause lets face it you haven’t slept good
for at least 3 months.
So now life goes from being a family of 2 to a
family of 3. Keep in mind this is from my point of view, I know not everyone’s
story will be like this but deal with it this is about me remember CIMH ;) ok
where was I, oh yeah from 2 to 3 just like that. Now if this is your first be
prepared to be bombarded by visitors especially if you live around friends and
family. We not only had grandparents,
Aunts and Uncles come visit we also had some of my moms friends come plus ours…
everyone wanted to see the new baby.
The first night after all the visitors finally
cleared out and I was done trying to pull my hair out to breast feed Justin
took Renae so I could sleep. I wake up and look over on the couch and there
they are both sleeping on the couch in our hospital room. It just melted my
heart and made me fall even more in love with Justin. Seeing him with the girls
even now is just so sweet. Ok but back to the ugly truth you are probably sore
as all get out and hurts to move around too much. So fun and now you have to
keep this little human being alive. And if you were like me they did an
episiotomy but that wasn’t enough, baby decided to rip you 2 more degrees, so a
4th degree tear yippee. I used our boppy (breastfeeding pillow) As a
doughnut to sit on for about 6 days cimh. Feel free to laugh, again the joys of
mother hood they don’t warn you about. I have to say by the time I got to
Morgan I was good by the time we left the hospital. So not all recoveries are
that bad.
Ok got off track back to keeping this baby
alive, so how does one do that??? Well you can breast feed, bottle-feed or well
both. Well I would not consider myself crunchy by any means that would be saved
for Jen ;) but with my first I had done all the research on the benefits of
breast-feeding and how good it was for the baby to get the colostrum and all
that jazz. So here I am with the mind
set that formula is evil and Breast is best. Start the most frustrating thing
in my life cause my sweet little daughter would not latch for nothing… I tried
and tried and tried and still could not get her to latch and the more I tried
the more frustrated both of us got. Finally I got a lactation nurse in to help
me and she got Renae to latch. Success!!! Well the next time it was time to
feed her again she would not latch and again I had to have the nurse help me. I
was finally told (TMI) I have inverted nipples and most babies don’t like that.
Joy joy… I have heard a TON of breast-feeding success stories so don’t get
discouraged by me. It will be between you and your baby. But lets just say Renae did not like my
boobs and ended up with Jaundice and spent the first week of her life on a
Billie Light. And I got a breast pump
and pumped until my supply pooped out at about 3 weeks and couldn’t keep up
with Renae’s demands and she was eating all formula. So lesson learned formula
is not evil but I do totally agree babies need to at least get the colostrum
cause that cannot be reproduced in formula.
Ok well I skipped ahead for a second now go
back to the hospital. That first poopy diaper. OMG no one warned us or if they
had we forgot. If you have kids you will know what I am talking about. A lovely
tar black like poop that sticks to the babies butt and as a new parent with
very little to no diaper changing experience you end up using almost an entire
thing of wipes. I have a confession to make I have NEVER changed the first poop
diaper of any kid including my own. My wonderful husband took all three first
poops. Such a good daddy J
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| Renae sleeping in her carseat |
So by this point you have learned you will get
very little sleep. In the hospital not only do you have the baby waking you up,
but you have nurses, doctors and visitors coming in and out too. But this will finally come to an end and you
will get to go home woohoo… So you strap baby into the carseat for the very
first time and the car seat swallows them hole. They are so tiny you think to
yourself is this even safe??? Well it is a lot safer then you holding the baby
in your arms. No matter how much they cry or hate the car seat leave them in
it, and if you want to take them out pull over for a min. We were lucky and all
three girls didn’t mind the carseat.
So you get baby home finally peace and quiet
and then another visitor shows up. Then it is suppertime and darn it no nurse
to deliver your food. You are on your own unless you were lucky and someone who
really loves you brought you Larry’s. Oh yeah my mommy loves me, or just really
wanted an excuse to see the baby lol.
But that first night will be constant waking up either by the baby
crying or by you being paranoid cause the baby hasn’t cried and you get up to
go check on them and make sure everything is still ok.
I am realizing this blog is getting REALLY long
lol.. lots going on in the first few days of parent hood. It isn’t all rainbows
and gum drops but the love you will have for such a little creature is amazing.
And you will just spend countless hours starring at your baby or watching your
significant other with your baby and it will put you in aw. Thanks for reading,
I will work on more blogs about the truth behind parenthood cause as they get
older more stuff you had no idea was coming well will happen lol. And I have
only made it 5 ½ years in, lord help me over the next 13 years… oh and I knew I
was going to get my pre baby body back in an instant but I didn’t realize I
would still look and feel 6 months pregnant. That did go down and by 3 months I
was almost physically feeling un pregnant, can’t say that for the scale but
physically I felt better. So don’t get discouraged about your body either. With
a little bit of discipline and hard work it can be put back to almost normal
lol.
So quick recap on the things they don’t tell
you.
-Slimy baby thrown on you, kinda yuck lol
-Pain and bloating and all that will still be
around after birth.
-tiny creature has some nasty poop
-Breast is best but formula is not evil and
plenty of healthy babies are raised on just formula
-You will get very little sleep
-Car seats are a must
-Your heart will grow 100 times better
-WORTH EVERY SECOND
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| Our first family photo, somehow we missed doing this in the hospital |
